Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Opinions

Something I've noticed about opinions and the manner in which they are expressed is that most people interpret disagreement as a personal attack. This is partly expressed as a stubborn unwillingness to discuss one's opinions after they are stated, illustrated by a version of "I don't want to discuss it, that just what I believe". Related to this, there is a proverb that states that there are two things that one shouldn't discuss: religion and politics. Why is that? Probably because most people either haven't really thought through why they hold their religious or political views or else they haven't seriously questioned the underlying assumptions behind those beliefs. While I'm as likely as anyone else to hold irrational, illogical and just-plain-stupid beliefs, I make an attempt to consider the other guy's opinion and, when necessary, learn from it and modify my own stance. I'm also likely, when somebody says that they disagree with me, or that I'm wrong, to ask that person why, to explain why they think that my position is incorrect. Now I will get a little miffed if the way that disagreement is expressed is with a statement in the vein of "that's stupid" or "that doesn't make any sense". The first is a judgement without any stated basis and the second is just a poorly worded admission of lack of understanding. I'm all for politeness when it comes to disagreement.

Maybe the new technology of social media has made the sensitivity to disagreement more prevalent. After all, blogs and "places" like Facebook have made it easier to make anonymous pronouncements with little danger that someone you offend is close enough to beat you up! But think about the difference between people interacting remotely through their computers in cyberspace and those same people sitting around a table sharing some beers or coffee. Let's say Jack, out of nowhere, proclaims: "Obama is a gay socialist Kenyan Muslim who wants to set up death panels to kill our old people". His buddy Skip, a devoted Democrat, is probably not going to ignore this, but respond with some kind of rebuttal, or at least roll his eyes and tell Jack to shut up. In contrast, written statements like this generally just attract posts agreeing with the initial statement; opposing views are deleted.

That's my view anyway. Feel free to disagree!

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Dogma vs. Being Nice

A large chunk of the world's population (I wouldn't want to estimate the exact number) believes that their fellow humans should be viewed and judged, not by the way they act, or even the words that come out of their mouths, but by their opinion of the nature of spiritual beings and their interpretation of books purportedly about these spiritual beings. Now to be fair, a lot of these people, with the circular reasoning that only true hardcore dogma can inspire, equate good behavior with evidence of correct belief, but many others look strictly at dogma. I think that I can speak from a position of authority; I was one of those people for a several decades.

In the Christian sub-group that I was a part of, 'right believing' was a huge part of the doctrines that we adhered to. In fact, one of the most important (to us) indications of whether we were true Christians or not was belief in two positions that were antithetical to mainstream Christian belief: that Jesus Christ was not God, or an aspect or "person" of the godhead, but a mere man and that the dead did not go to heaven, hell, purgatory or some other "afterlife", but were truly dead, inanimate and unconscious until a future resurrection. Of course, most mainstream Christians looked at us, as well as other Christians who believed similar things, as heretics, or not "true" Christians. Both sides had quotes from their "ultimate source of truth", the bible, to back up their positions, and both were equally adamant of their correctness. I was pretty arrogant about my own claim to the spiritual high ground, as were those who held the opposing view.

While my own intransigence about salvation was merely annoying to those around me, similar thinking in other arenas has higher stakes. In the Republican presidential primaries, Mitt Romney's religion is something that many people consider as relevant, even though the other candidates for the most part are wisely steering clear of it. As far as how Romney acts - his family values, conservative habits, and just in general how he lives his life, he is the poster boy for how social conservatives say folks should live. Yet...yet...yet...since his beliefs about the nature of Jesus Christ, creation and countless other little details differ from mainstream Christianity, he is viewed as "not a true Christian" and therefore suspect. It doesn't seem to matter how he lives and how he treats others, he doesn't believe the same, so he's one of them. I don't have to wonder at the firestorm that will erupt the first time somebody really different, like a Hindu or a Buddhist, or somebody scary, like a Wiccan or another pagan...or even an atheist steps up on the public soapbox. (For some reasons Jews get a pass in the intolerance sweepstakes; they are looked as "other", but don't really bring out the worst in people - maybe because the hard cases think of them as the chosen people, or something)

Of course, political idiocy is nothing next to jihad, and since the crusades of the Middle Ages, the militant Muslims take the prize for most intolerant group. I have heard more than a few Americans justify their own religious bigotry by invoking the excesses of the horrors of the sectarian violence of Iraq, Palestine or Pakistan or even the institutionalized prejudice in places like Saudi Arabia. But this isn't Americastan; this is the United States - and despite what some think, we don't have an official religion.

So here's my opinion: make your judgments about how individuals behave, not according to what group they belong to. Not that all stereotypes are 100% wrong, sometimes there is some truth in there somewhere, but they are at best generalizations, individuals make their own choices and that's who we interact with. How do people act when they don't have to be nice? How about when under pressure? Or after a few drinks? How do they behave when they think that no one is watching? That's a more realistic measure of a man or a woman than what god they talk with.