It's mostly found when one person is in a position of perceived power relative to another, but it's not exclusive to that dynamic.
One of the most common and most obvious tactic that is used is talking over the other person. Absent a personal attack or insult, it's just good manners to let the other person make their point, finish their thought, consider what they said, and only then is it time to answer, rebut or elaborate. By talking over someone who is still talking you have communicated that what the other person has to say is beneath notice and doesn't deserve to be heard. Rather than listening and considering, the interrupter impatiently jumps in, sure that what he has to say is so much more important that what the other person is saying. This doesn't always involve yelling. I have encountered people in my professional life who believe that they have the answer to my question before I have fully articulated it. Oftentimes they do have the answer, but sometimes being able to fully articulate the question is an important part of being able to understand the answer when it arrives.
The flip side to talking over, and a tactic that often flies below the radar, is when one person barely takes a breath in their rambling soliloquy, covering multiple subjects without allowing the other person to response, disagree, or participate other than as a passive listener. This is just as much a power play as talking over someone, except in this case your disdain for the other person is such that you don't allow them to say anything. When on the receiving end of these marathons, any thoughts or contributions you may have for the "discussion" become irrelevant since what you had an opinion on may be four or five subjects and 45 minutes past before you can wedge your way into the verbal hurricane.
Gaslighting is a popular tool in the verbal bully's toolbox. We see a lot of gaslighting on the national level, but it's pretty common in interpersonal power plays. When someone is gaslighting you, they act so convinced about what they're saying, so sure about what you know to be the opposite of what really happened, that you begin to doubt your own sanity. Years ago I was the target of some pretty sustained gaslighting. Sometimes I would be told that something that had been said seconds ago had not been said, sometimes I would be told that something I said seconds ago had not been said. Conversations that I had participated in would be "remembered" completely differently the next day. Eventually I began to see through it, but the weirdest gaslighting attempt involved a stop light. There was a traffic light a little way down from the corner from where we lived. I was referring to it for some reason and I was told "there is no stop light at the corner". Flabbergasted, I tried to explain that it wasn't actually at the corner, but about one house north of the intersection and that it was a school crossing light. Nope, I was told, there is no traffic light there. I was so messed up that I actually walked down the street to verify with my own eyes that there was a traffic light!
Although these power plays often are conducted in a soft, reasonable-sounding voice, there is also the potential for violence, or at least threatening behavior. One of the more common examples of threatening body language is the "lean in". We all have a "bubble" an area around us that we like to keep free of other people. Everyone has differing tolerances for people getting in their bubble, but a favorite power play move is to step into another's bubble and lean in, face to face. There is no interpretation where this is not an aggressive move.
Finally, when talking over, not shutting up, gaslighting and aggressive posturing have all run their course, there's belittling. It doesn't have to be overt, like calling someone stupid. It could involve snickering at someone's point of view, telling them that no one cares about what they are talking about or pointing out an area of perceived weakness. Pompeo tried and failed in this maneuver by pulling out an unlabeled map of Europe, not realizing that Kelly had a Masters Degree in European studies and had forgotten more about European politics than he'll ever know; he doubled down by implying that she misidentified Bangladesh as Ukraine.
Don't let these behaviors happen to you. When someone is talking over you, the tendency is to stop talking - don't. Finish what you were saying, don't be bullied into shutting up. When someone won't shut up, try some non-aggressive move, like raising your hand when it's obvious that they aren't going to take a breath. Don't put up with gaslighting, politely correct the gaslighter. It's natural for people to remember a conversation slightly differently, but recognize the distinction between a difference of opinion and outright fabrication. While being aware that threatening or aggressive posturing might turn into actual violence, don't put up with that either, and certainly don't accept being belittled.
The world is full of people who will try to get you to back down.
Don't.
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